Will You See You?

Living a drunken life, not that kind of drunk, but drunk with life and love.

My 15-year-old daughter walked in my room and called me a “lazy bum bum.” She was having a highly productive day. She cleaned her room, worked on school work, and completed other productive tasks.

Me, on the other hand, I was caught watching YouTube.

As the day wore on, I found myself being upset and offended. Only moms know how much we sacrifice and work. Motherhood is literally a 24/7 job!

Should I brush off my hurt feelings?

When You Feel Hurt

Here’s another story about feelings.

The other day, I was talking to a friend.

She was out walking with her friend the previous day. Her friend told her that she was upset about something.

My friend said, “We should feel incredibly grateful. We can’t complain. I just listened to a book about a North Korean defector who had to endure so much.”

She went on and on about this person’s trials and hardships.

Will You See You?

Do you brush aside your feelings? We’re not in war-torn countries like Ukraine and Israel/Palestine. At least I’m not.

I don’t have to worry about my next meal. I probably have 100 meals on my body!

You witness your suffering because you need to see yourself. That’s how you develop self-compassion.

When you witness yourself, you can then process your feelings. When you process your feelings, they can pass through you and not stay in you.

When feelings stay stuck, they create stress, inflammation, weakened immune systems, and disease. It’s like how chronic stress causes heart attacks.

Conclusion

I have a warm home, plenty of food, and a loving family. On the other hand, my friend’s husband just committed suicide. Who am I to complain?

But we all suffer. Life is full of roses and thorns. The good always comes with the bad.

So please witness your suffering. Witness your suffering so that you can start to feel your feelings. Process those feelings so that they don’t stay stuck in your body.

You can talk to yourself like a child who scrapped his knee. “I’m so sorry. I see you. I know that you’re hurting. I love you. It will be okay.”

Please see yourself. Please be compassionate towards yourself.

Merry Christmas!